If your cat won’t sleep with you, this post will show you a number of possible reasons why and what you can do about them.

So, why won’t my cat sleep with me? Likely reasons why your cat won’t sleep with you are that it finds another room more comfortable, it is used to sleeping somewhere else, it thinks you do not want it to sleep with you, or that it finds your bedroom uncomfortable.

There are actually a number of possible reasons why your cat won’t sleep with you and it might be due to a combination of them. However, there are a number of things you can consider to help figure out the main cause and there are some things you can do about it.

Reasons why your cat won’t sleep with you

Below are reasons why your cat won’t sleep with you and what would make them more likely.

It finds another room more comfortable

The reason could be that it finds the place that it sleeps to be more comfortable. If you try to get it to sleep on your bed it might be that it is too hot for it, the room might be too hot or it might find the floor to be cooler. This would be more likely if it does sleep with you on certain nights such as when it is colder.

It is used to sleeping somewhere else

The cause could be that it has become accustomed to sleeping in a different location and it feels more secure when it sleeps there. This would be more likely if there is a particular spot that it has always chosen to sleep in.

It thinks you don’t want it to sleep with you

Another cause could be that it thinks that you want it to sleep somewhere else. This would be more likely if you tend to give it things that it wants when it does not sleep with you or if you get annoyed with it when it does sleep with you. Instead, it would help to reward it when it lays down where you want it to sleep.

Things to consider

Below are some things to consider when figuring out the main reason why your cat has been doing it.

If your cat has never slept with you

If your cat did sleep with you in the past but it suddenly stopped then it would help to consider what else happened when it stopped doing it since there might have been an event that caused it to stop.

If it did sleep with you in the past then it might have stopped due to things such as your room being too hot, not having enough space or it might have chosen to sleep in what it feels like is a safer spot. It would help to consider what else changed when it stopped sleeping with you.

Whereas, if it has always chosen to sleep somewhere else then it would be more likely to be due to things such as those mentioned above.

What is different when your cat does sleep with you

It would also help to consider whether or not it always doesn’t sleep with you. If it does sleep with you sometimes then the timing might have something to do with it.

For example, if it does not sleep with you on hot nights then it might choose to sleep somewhere else because it is cooler there.

What to do about your cat not sleeping with you

Below are some options you have when dealing with the behavior.

Reward it for sleeping in your room

One option would be to reward your cat with positive attention when it chooses to come to your room. By doing this, it should help to encourage your cat to sleep there in order to get more rewards.

Make your room more comfortable

If there is not currently a comfortable spot for it in your room, it could also help to make one by putting a cat bed where you want it to sleep.

Be calm with it

As mentioned above, it could be the case that your cat thinks you do not want it to sleep with you. When it does come into your room, it would help to be calm with it and to give it positive attention.

Let it do it

If your cat is choosing to sleep in another room, it is likely to be because it finds it more comfortable in there. The easiest option would be to just allow your cat to continue to sleep where it wants to but to give your cat the option to sleep in your room if it wants to.

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I created and currently run Kitty Cat Tips, the website that you can go to when you have questions about your cat's behavior. It's my hope that you find Kitty Cat Tips to be a helpful resource. It is also my hope that it will help you to improve your relationship with your cat. You can read more about me and my website here.