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Why doesn’t my cat like my boyfriend or husband?

If your cat does not like your boyfriend or husband, this post will show you likely reasons why and what you can do about them.

So, why does my cat not like my boyfriend or husband? Likely reasons why your cat does not like your boyfriend or husband are that you are the one that feeds it, gives it the most attention or that your cat does not like the way he interacts with it.

There are actually a number of possible reasons why your cat does not like him. However, there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause and there are some things you can do about it.

Why doesn’t my cat like my boyfriend or husband?

Below are likely reasons why your cat does not like him and what would make each of them more likely to be the main reason.

You are the one that feeds it and gives it attention

If you are the one that normally feeds your cat, your cat will likely give you the most attention because it has learned that you are the one that gives it food. In this case, it could help to give your husband to feed it sometimes.

Your cat is intimidated by his body language

It might also be the case that his behavior or body language has been causing it to become anxious around him. If you he has been shouting a lot around the cat, touching it forcefully or making bold movements around it, it will likely intimidate your cat and cause it to want to be around him less.

Your cat is naturally timid

Most cats are naturally timid. If he has not been around the cat for long, the cat will naturally not feel comfortable around him. In this case, the case should gradually become more comfortable around him as it gets more used to being around him.

Your cat does not like the way he interacts with it

It might also be the case that your cat does not like the way he has been petting it. This would be more likely if your cat tends to scratch or hiss when he pets it. In this case, it could help to observe how your husband has been petting it and to see if he has been doing it differently to how you pet it. It could also be the case that it is his body language that causes the cat to get intimidated.

Things to consider

Below are some things to consider to help figure out the main cause.

If your cat has always not liked your boyfriend or husband

If your cat did used to like your husband, it would help to consider what else happened when your cat first stopped liking him. If it stopped liking him suddenly, it might be the case that he stopped feeding it, he started interacting with it differently or he changed his behavior around the cat.

What is different when your cat does like him

If your cat does like your husband sometimes, it would also help to consider what is different when your cat does like him. For example, if it does like him when he pets it in a certain manner, the issue could be with the way he has been petting it.

What to do about your cat not liking your boyfriend or husband?

Below are some options you have when dealing with the behavior.

Mention that your cat might not like how he interacts with it

It could help to mention that your cat might not like the way he has been interacting with it or acting around it. Usually, you will find that cats prefer to have their chins rubbed instead of getting a full backrub.

Get him to feed it

If he does not feed it much, it would also help to get him to feed it sometimes.

Give it time

If he has not been around your cat for long, it would also help to give your cat some time to become comfortable around him.