If your cat seems to like your boyfriend or husband more, this post will show you likely reasons why and what you can do about them.

So, why does my cat like my boyfriend or husband more? The most likely reason why your cat likes your boyfriend or husband more is that he is the one that feeds it and gives it the most attention or that you have been intimidating it.

There are a number of possible reasons why your cat likes your boyfriend or husband more and it might be due to a combination of reasons. However, there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main reason and there are some things you can do about it.

Why does my cat like my boyfriend or husband?

Below are likely reasons why your cat likes your boyfriend or husband more.

He is the one that feeds it

If your husband is the one that feeds the cat the most, it is likely that your cat seems to like him more because your cat has learned that he is the one that feeds it. In this case, it would likely help to start being the one to feed it yourself.

Your cat is intimidated by your body language

It might also be the case that your own behavior has been making the cat become anxious around you. If you have been shouting a lot around the cat, you touch it forcefully or make bold movements around it, it will likely intimidate your cat and cause it to want to be around you less.

Your cat is naturally timid

Most cats are naturally timid. If you have not been around your cat for long, your cat will likely have not learned to become comfortable around you yet. In this case, your cat should gradually give you more attention to you over time.

Your cat does not like the way you interact with it

It might also be the case that your cat does not like the way you have been petting it. This would be more likely if your cat tends to scratch or hiss when you pet it. In this case, it could help to observe how your husband has been petting it and to see if he has been doing it differently.

He gives Your cat more attention

If he is the one that tends to give your cat the most attention throughout the day, your cat will naturally gravitate more towards him because he is the one that has been giving it the most attention.

Things to consider

Below are some things to consider to help figure out the main reason why your cat has been doing it.

If your cat has always liked your boyfriend or husband more

If your cat did not always like him more, it would help to consider what else happened when your cat first started doing it. If your cat started doing it suddenly, it could be due to things such as a change in the way you have been interacting with it or he started feeding it more.

What is different when your cat does like you

If your cat does give you positive attention sometimes, it would also help to consider what is different when your cat does give you attention. For example, if it does it when you pet it in a certain manner, it could be due to the way you pet it.

What to do about your cat liking your boyfriend or husband more?

Below are some options you have when dealing with the behavior.

Interact with it differently

One option would be to pet your cat in a different manner and to be calm around it. Usually, you will find that cats prefer to have their chins rubbed instead of getting a full backrub.

Be the one to feed it

If you are not the one that has been feeding your cat, it would also help to start being the one to feed it.

Give it more attention

If you have not been giving your cat much attention yourself, it would also help to give it attention throughout the day by petting it or playing with it.

Give it time

If you have not owned your cat for long, it would also likely help to give your cat some time for it to become comfortable around you.

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I created and currently run Kitty Cat Tips, the website that you can go to when you have questions about your cat's behavior. It's my hope that you find Kitty Cat Tips to be a helpful resource. It is also my hope that it will help you to improve your relationship with your cat. You can read more about me and my website here.