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Why did my cat stop sitting on me?

If your cat stopped sitting on you, this post will show you a number of possible reasons why and what you can do about them.

So, why did my cat stop sitting on me? Likely reasons why your cat stopped sitting on you are that you started petting it differently, intimidation, a change in its environment, you started treating it differently or injury or illness.

There are actually a number of possible reasons why your cat stopped sitting with you and it might be due to a combination of causes. However, there are some things you can consider when figuring out the main reason and there are some things you can do about it.

Why your cat stopped sitting with you

Below are possible reasons why your cat has been doing it and what would make them more likely.

Your cat has actually become more comfortable around the home

It could be the case that your cat was initially following you around and sitting on you because it felt unsafe. Your cat might have stopped doing that because it has become more comfortable around the home. This would be more likely if your cat has stopped showing signs of being anxious and it does not avoid you when you approach it.

You started petting it differently

It could be the case that there is an issue with the way you have been petting it. It could be the case that you have been petting it too strongly or you have been doing it in a way it does not like. This would be more likely if your cat does sit with you sometimes but it stops when you start petting it in a certain manner.

Intimidation

It might also be the case that you have been intimidating it. You might have been intimidating it by approaching it too quickly, being too loud or aggressive around it or because you accidentally hurt it. Instead, it would help to be calm and gentle with it.

A change in the temperature

The cause could be due to a change in the temperature, in your room, at night. If your room has become hotter, and your cat has gone to a colder part of the house, it would be likely that it is trying to stay cool. Whereas, if your room is colder at night and your cat has gone to a warmer part, it would be likely that it is trying to stay warm.

A change in its environment

The cause might also be that there has been a change in its environment. Changes could include getting another pet that intimidates it or new noises in your environment causing it to hide.

It thinks you do not want it to sit with you

It might also be the case that it thinks you do not want it to sit with you. This would be more likely if it has stopped sitting with you since you stopped giving it as much attention yourself or since you started moving it away when it came near to you.

Injury or illness

It might also be the case that it has gotten an injury or illness. This would be more likely if it stopped sitting with you suddenly and if it has been showing other signs of injury or illness such as not moving around as much or vomiting a lot. If it seems like injury or illness might be the cause, the best option would be to take it to a vet.

It found another spot that it likes

The cause might be that it found another spot that it prefers to sit in. This would be more likely if your cat has started sitting somewhere it does not usually sit but it has not been avoiding you at other times.

Consider what else happened when it stopped sitting on you

If your cat stopped being sitting on you suddenly, it would help to consider what else happened when it stopped doing it. If it stopped suddenly, it might be due to things such as you moving away when it showed you affection, intimidation or injury or illness.

What to do about your cat not being sitting on you anymore

Below are some options you have when dealing with the behavior.

Pet it differently

As mentioned above, it might be the case that there is an issue with the way you have been interacting with it. Instead, it would help to pet and touch it in a way that it seems to like and to be calm around it. Usually, cats prefer to be rubbed below the chin instead of having a full back rub.

Show more affection to it yourself

It might be the case that your cat thinks you do not want it to sit with you. To fix this, it would help to show your cat affection throughout the day by petting it and playing with it and to avoid moving it when it does sit with you.

Let it sit where it wants to

If your cat seems to be sitting somewhere else because it has found another spot, it would also be an option to let your cat continue sitting there and to give it an option to sit with you if it wants.